Being raised as a Seventh-Day Adventist, praying for my husband should sound like a no brainer. But the truth is that I really don’t pray as much as I should (just being honest)! Jeff didn’t grow up in a religious household at all so it’s definitely a work in progress to get us to pray with and for each on a daily basis. I truly believe there is power in praying and that God needs to be at the apex of your marriage to live happily ever after. But on most nights when it’s time for us to pray it’s already midnight, we worked all day, spent way too long in traffic, cooked dinner, did homework and we just want to crash. It’s not that we intentionally ditch the prayers but that we just get so wrapped up in everything else we are doing that we completely forget about this important part of our day.

Getting Started

Since Jeff did not grow up going to church, he struggles with praying from the heart. When we first started praying together, he would just listen to me. He admitted feeling awkward about it and just not knowing what to say. I explained to him that it’s like having a conversation but with God. I told him to just talk to Him, tell Him all your problems, thank him, praise him, and pray for blessings upon other people. He still does not feel comfortable praying out loud but he did start having these prayer monologues in his heart with God. Although Jeff and I are not the same faith, he was always open to my religion and to accepting Christ as his Savior. I can’t be any more grateful for that and I don’t judge him or make him feel uncomfortable for not knowing the things that I am used to from growing up as a Christian.

Making Prayer A Routine In Your Marriage

To make praying more effortless, we decided to purchase a couple of books that has daily prayers for your spouse. My book was called “31 Prayers For My Husband” and his “31 Prayers For My Wife” by Aaron & Jennifer Smith. Every night before bed we each read our prayers out loud for the other to hear. There is even a space to write in prayers from your heart in addition to the pre-written ones. We keep the books on our night stands to remind us to read them nightly. As you may know, they say it takes 21 days to form a habit. The 31 day prayer challenge definitely helped us in making our prayers a routine. We are not being endorsed in any way and we are just sharing what we tried and feel truly works for us! If buying a book is not for you, try setting an alarm on your phone to remind you to pray at bedtime/wake time or grab a notepad & pen and keep your own daily prayer diary. Whatever works, as long as you stick with it. Because a couple that prays together, stays together.