The ball has dropped and we are officially in 2022. Wow!!! Who else is surprised at how quickly the previous year has left us? It’s a new year- but is everything in your marriage the same? Is it a rollover of 2021 in your household? As a couple it is so important to set goals together. These goals should be different from what you set out for yourself. Maintaining your own individual goals is also important for you too.

If you’re not sure on how to get started, here are some simple questions you can ask each other. This can spark some more conversation on how to steer your marriage in this new year.

Goal Setting Questions To Ask Your Spouse

• How much time are we spending as a couple?
• What is practical for us to keep up with date night?
• How often are we having sex? Are you satisfied with that?
• Am I showing you love in a way that you would like to receive it (i.e. love languages)?
• How are our finances? What is our financial plan for this year?
• Is travel (as a couple) practical for us this year? Can we fit in weekend getaways alone?

The Past Is Relevant

Although focusing on the new is great, don’t forget to acknowledge what you’ve already accomplished together. Look at your wins for 2021 and celebrate those. It will motivate you this year. If you did not set goals together or you didn’t work on them in the past year- acknowledge that too. Maybe one of this year’s goals can be consistency and commitment to following through on your marriage goals.

Why Even Bother?

Our romantic relationships contribute so much to our happiness as well as our misery. If we don’t put in the effort to make it happy and fun loving, then it won’t be. Remember that the grass is only green where you water it. Couples who work on their marriage by setting goals for example are happier- according to psychologists. Even if those goals are stressful. There is power in working on something together.

Be Realistic

Make sure your goals are something that you can reach within a year. You shouldn’t plan to save 10K this year if you never did a budget together and aren’t sure if you can comfortably reach that. You don’t need to have 10 things on your list to work on either. Maybe this year you only focus on 1 or 2 things because that what you can realistically commit to. That is OK. As long as the two of you agree to work towards them as a couple.

Wishing You A Happy & Prosperous New Year!!!