After a long and completely unpredictable year (2020), it’s time to reset and refresh! We’re 2 weeks into the new year. Have you set your new marriage goals for 2021 yet? Not only is it important to set your personal goals but it is just as important to set your goals as a couple. What needs improvement in your marriage? What do you not want repeated in the new year? What do you want to leave behind in 2020? Have do you want to handle your finances this year? These are questions that you can ask yourself and your spouse. Set your vision for the marriage just as you would for yourself. Relationships will always be a work in progress so remember to keep putting in the work! That means evaluating where you are and figuring how things can be better.

Jeff and I spent time talking about our individual goals as well as our marriage goals. We plan to hold each other accountable for all of it! As new parents, we are really going to need to put in extra work to keep the fire alive since it is so easy to get consumed in parenting. We plan to work on better communication (we always can use some improvement there!) and meeting each other’s needs. Meeting each other’s needs looks different for each of us. For him it means fulfilling his love language of touch. For me it’s acts of service (especially with a newborn!) These are the ways that we can make each other happy and continue to work on us.

Your new year marriage goals don’t need to be lavish or extravagant. They don’t even have to be long. They just need to be practical for your current situation. Maybe you pick just one single thing to work on this year. Maybe you want to commit to date night every other week, or a small savings goal that you both contribute to. Maybe it’s being more attentive to each other or to finally abandon infidelity. Maybe it’s to pray more together as a family. Whatever it is, make sure to prioritize it and pray about it. Even if you didn’t hit the ground running on January 1rst- it’s never too late to set your intentions. You got this!